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Ayelet Gundar-Goshen's room of her own

The author Ayelet Gundar-Goshen on motherhood, writing and the joys of uncertainty

September 15, 2016 11:45
Peace and quiet: Ayelet Gundar-Goshen

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Ayelet Gundar-Goshen

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My first child was born shortly after my second novel, Waking Lions, was published in Israel. At first, I felt a great relief, after carrying both of them within me - the baby for nine months, the novel for two years - it was good to know they were finally out. For a few months, there was nothing I wanted more than to stay home with my baby.

But, after a while, I realised I missed writing. It was only then that I fully grasped what Virginia Woolf talked about when she wrote A Room of One's Own. My used-to-be writing desk was now covered with baby stuff. My quiet window to a small garden in Tel Aviv was now shut, so that the baby could nap without disturbance from the Mediterranean sun.

But the worst thing wasn't the toys or the shut-window, it was me. Writing is a very egocentric act. It requires complete focus on oneself: your thoughts, your feelings, your journey through the plot. And motherhood, well, that's the exact opposite - instead of listening to yourself, or giving full attention to the sound of your characters, you are completely tuned-in to someone else.

Even if I did manage to sneak into the other room, my ear was always listening for sounds coming from the baby. After entering the living room 10 times in half an hour, my partner looked at me and said: "You should find a studio".

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