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Carol Gould

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Britain can be a brutal host

I was abused for being American and Jewish - by a TV director

August 19, 2010 10:18
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A friend and I were having a lovely time at a house party after the First Night of the Proms when a young man in a baseball hat sauntered over to me and said: "I have some questions for you." He started with, "So, what do you do?" and I explained that I have in the past been on tough panels discussing Israel and the USA. He gave me "the look", as I like to call it. I thought he was going to strike me. He sputtered, "So, why do you people always have to say, Look at me! I'm a Jew?"

I was stunned. Attempting to defend my identity I said, "This will be the 5,771st Jewish New Year, of which I am as proud as would be a person of Egyptian, Indian, Chinese or Persian descent," but he launched into the obligatory, "So, what was this Zionist lark anyway - why did they have to nick the Palestinians' land?"

When I tried to explain Herzl, the pogroms and the Dreyfus trial, he said, "There you go again - look at us, the Jews! The Jews!" He proceeded to spend what seemed an eternity traducing f***ing Americans, Jews, Zionism and Israel, until I began to suspect he was a neo-Nazi. When I tried to explain that Rabin did try to make peace during Oslo, out came the invective again: "Yeah, but they control f***ing everything anyway.' He then turned to the American Jewish lobby, moaning about the "f***ing banks", so I reminded him that many American banks are Protestant-run. Of the good that Jews do, like discovering the polio vaccine and writing virtually every Broadway show, this had the exact opposite effect. He erupted, saying I was "self-obsessed". "It's always me, me, the Jews!", he shouted. I wanted to leave but was hemmed in. I suddenly found myself screaming at the top of my lungs, "Listen, I am damned proud of the Jews and burst with pride at being an American." To this he replied, "Why do you people always have to be proclaiming all this f***ing stuff about yourselves?" Meanwhile, his little girl sat down across his lap and glowered at me as he ranted in an endless stream of f-words. Had she not been there, at that precise moment I would have thrown his glass of red wine in his face.

I have never been this stunned. So young but consumed with hatred. He never let me finish a sentence, interrupting me with "Here comes the f***ing Jewish thing again." I expect he missed my saying his views were "alarming". When I got home I took an aspirin. I truly thought I would have a heart attack.