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If a same-sex couple divorce, do they need a get?

Rabbi, I have a problem

February 25, 2016 12:16

ByAnonymous, Anonymous

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Question: I have some friends who would like to get married in a same-sex ceremony in a synagogue. But they wonder if the marriage failed, would they have to obtain a get?

Rabbi Naftali Brawer

Naftali Brawer is the CEO of the Spiritual Capital Foundation.

The answer is that no get is required. To understand the function of a get one must first appreciate the status of what is known as kiddushin, betrothal. Kiddushin comes from the root k-d-s-h from which we get the word kadosh meaning sacred. Sacred is something particular that is set apart from the whole.

God uses the term kadosh when describing the children of Israel as a sacred nation (goy kadosh), highlighting their separateness from other nations, and the prophet Isaiah hears celestial angels describing God as the ultimate kadosh as he is utterly Other.