Rabbi, I have a problem

Are my kids too young to attend a funeral?

August 4, 2016

Question: My father is seriously ill and when he passes away, I’d like to bring my children — who are aged from seven to 10 — to the funeral to say goodbye to their grandfather, but my wife insists they are too young to attend. What should I do?


Do synagogue members have a right to know their rabbi's salary?

June 30, 2016

Question: Like many synagogues, we have had to tighten our belts because of the financial situation. But the board of management says that issues like the rabbi's salary and expenses are appropriate only to be discussed by the board and not at an open meeting of members. Are they right?


My son wants to have his cake and eat it when it comes to keeping kosher

June 1, 2016

Question: My teenage son says he is willing to keep kosher up to a point but thinks it is ridiculous that he can’t have ice-cream after chicken and that this is an example of a pointless rule which is difficult to stomach.


Is it wrong for a rabbi to be involved with a political party?

May 5, 2016

Question: A friend of mine was taken aback to find his rabbi was a member of the Labour party. I don’t know if he would have felt the same way if it had been the Conservatives. But should rabbis in any case refrain from showing political allegiances?


Is it right to request the use of scans rather than invasive procedures for postmortems?

March 23, 2016

Question: When our father died, the authorities wanted a post-mortem. But my brother, who is more religious than I, insisted it should be done by scan rather than by an invasive procedure. I couldn't see the point but reluctantly I bowed to his wishes. Was I right?


If a same-sex couple divorce, do they need a get?

February 25, 2016

Question: I have some friends who would like to get married in a same-sex ceremony in a synagogue. But they wonder if the marriage failed, would they have to obtain a get?


I am devastated after a break-up and it’s left me questioning why God has allowed this to happen to me

January 29, 2016

Question: I met a girl who I thought was my beshert and the relationship seemed to be going well until suddenly she ended it. It's left me devastated and I still don't know what I did wrong. I don't believe I am a bad person but it's left me questioning why God has allowed this to happen to me (Question)


If I have had a child with a woman, do I need a get before I can marry my new fiancee?

December 15, 2015

Question: A cousin of mine wants to marry his Jewish fiancée in synagogue. He was previously living with a Jewish woman and had a child by her, but they were never married. Does he need a get before the chupah can take place


Should we campaign for the right of Jews to pray on the Temple Mount?

November 5, 2015

Question: Should we be mounting a campaign to recognise the right of Jews to pray on the Temple Mount, because the current policy of restraint seems like capitulating to intimidation?


Is dancing with the Sefer on Simchat Torah over the top?

October 1, 2015

Question: My wife has a thing against Simchat Torah and doesn't like coming to shul. She thinks the dancing has got over-the-top and become a kind of Torah worship. Is this just English reserve or does she have a point?